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Having to Remove My Engagement Ring

Thursday, I removed my engagement ring from my finger because I must drink excess amounts of water to keep my fingers from swelling.

I still have my wedding band on for now.


I will keep it on as long as it comes off easily.


Wednesday, in triage, the mid-wife suggested I remove my rings before they have to be cut off.

My wedding band is very thin and easy to remove so, I think I should be able to continue wearing it. I really don't want to remove it. I didn't want to remove my engagement ring either.


I am probably taking it too hard.


My rings symbolize the promises my husband and I made to each other though, and I feel naked and vulnerable without them.


I am an extremely happily married woman, and we are fulfilling our love even more by bringing sweet Baby T into this world. She could be here soon though. I mean, they keep babies in as long as they can, but with my high risk, I have been ready to be prepared early. I would love for her to stay in until 39 weeks, the absolute maximum amount of time my Doctor will allow, but that is 16 weeks from tomorrow.

I haven't packed my bags for labor yet, but I could probably start putting some things together for that in the next couple weeks. I am sure that I am going to outgrow many clothes between now and the day we meet Baby T, though. She is still only about a pound and not viable outside of me until 24 weeks, and even then; I want her in at least 35 weeks.

I finally have that appetite I was waiting for.


I eat almost constantly.

I weigh roughly 3 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight at home on my bathroom scale. I am expecting it to get faster with my larger appetite. Today I had baked spaghetti made with squash and fresh veggies from our garden.


My dizziness I complained of while in triage on Wednesday has only gotten worse.


Did you experience dizziness in pregnancy? Did you find relief? How?

Now it is impacting my balance when I stand, not necessarily when I am walking or moving frequently, but when I stand or sit still for a longer period dizziness takes over. I called my OB about this yesterday to see if I am missing vitamins or something. She called back with the results of my testing from triage and said that everything is so perfect; I am just one of those lucky mama's who get to experience dizziness and faintness in the second half of pregnancy and her only recommendation was to lie down frequently and avoid long drives.


Next Monday we are due to get that 50 degree weather I have been waiting for, so I am looking forward to taking a walk with my husband that day. Today it is just under 40 degrees and I wanted my husband to go on a walk with me but he is spending the day with our roommate so I am going to do yoga and barre inside.

Today is a rather slow day. I spent the morning reading "The Bottom Line for Baby" which I highly recommend if you are having your first child too! I had so many questions about what is best for Baby T, and the book covers the positives and negatives of popular parenting techniques.


It has only changed my mind on one thing so far, and that was On-Demand Feedings vs. Scheduled Feedings. I originally felt that scheduled feedings made the most sense for Baby T and myself. I was thinking I should set alarms at night to make sure her needs are getting met, both changing dirty diapers and adequate food intake.


But they found that on-demand feedings are best for baby's IQ and health, as they will tell you when they need to eat. I assume the same goes for changings and just general feelings of discomfort and wanting some much needed attention from mom or dad. I now feel much better letting Baby T tell me her needs. Babies are very smart and very resilient. This is something I still struggle with understanding. I hope that it slowly sinks in once we bring our sweet girl into the world.


I don't know if it is wildly obvious from my blog, but it likely is if you know me personally. I am a control-freak. I run everything in my husband's and my own life.

So it will take training on my part to remember that to have the best well-adjusted baby girl I need to let her have some control and share her with others. I naturally assume that all of her needs will be met by me, 100% of the time.

But I know I need to let my husband build a bond with her.


I need to let her have time with grandparents and aunts and uncles.


This is hard with Covid, I am most tempted to say no meeting Baby T until Covid is gone. Unfortunately, we all know Covid isn't going anywhere, soon, and it just isn't practical to not allow anyone to meet our baby girl until that happens. My current rule is only one meeting with grandparents and aunts and uncles within the first 3 months, and we will see where things go from there.

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